How to be Nice

Having r.e.s.p.e.c.t. for others

It is very important to be respectful; and how may we practice respect? This is a serious topic, and I am not joking. You may think may think I am joking. I am not. Respect for other people.

If you are going to be disrespectful to others, you are only creating problems for your own dang self anyways.

It is very easy to think you are smart. You are the smartest person and everybody else is not at all smart. No, and now you believe they are stupid; and so it is easy to mouth off. I have received several messages from people on Substack who are doing this to me. It becomes more understandable we we realize that I tend to react to them. I always want to offer something, but then I have problems because because I receive such messages in return. I say things that are too complicated. The way they answer shows that I was not understood. Some people say I am crazy, who am I, etc. But what I do not understand is I don’t get why they did not read what I wrote! I may have made several points and I notice they pay any attention to any of what I said and I spent several minutes composing that response. So I do not understand. Why are they so intellectually deficient? This is what I ask myself. They are not paying any attention to to anything I wrote. They actually do not seem to understand that when somebody says something, it is not just mindless blather. It could mean something.

Try to listen to what other persons are saying. The reason is, when you act disrespectfully, it gums up the works for everyone. Now nothing works. So at this point I am stuck in a dialog with some person who does not read anything.

You can see how this can lead to a lot of hurt feelings. Meanwhile I do not know what to do. I am now I am stuck in a dialog with somebody.

I only wanted to be understood. But I think differently from other persons. I was hoping that could be a positive thing, not a negative.

But I get misunderstood, they respond by asking “Who is this person?”, and they think maybe I am unstable, which is I think maybe an old-fashioned term—they think maybe I am crazy. Those words they just read made perfect sense but maybe not to them? Or not in a way they normally expect.

So I am saying this “gums up the works,” which is something you already read, above.

In general, just try to be respectful, really. It’s a serious topic; it is not a thigh-slapper. Usually, if somebody says something, there is a reason for it. I’m not crazy.

Sometimes it just gets very frustrating.